If you want to be successful with attracting and picking up girls, there are a quantity of items you can do to make girls like you. I will mention a couple of of these male traits that are appealing to ladies.
Firstly, unknown to most guys, most girls are turned off by needy guys. Needy guys are guys who are always at the beck and contact of girls, wanting to please them desperately and will do practically something for them. They will call the girls everyday to inform them how quite they are and shower them with gifts. They also get jealous easily over their girls.
In the dating fraternity, these guys are known as wussies. Surprised? Are you 1 of them? You see, the moment you show that you are desperate and weak, females will mentally file you as “just a buddy” category and not “potential husband” material. Why is this so?
This is due to the fact girls want their prospective mates or mates to be of robust character. They want their guys who are emotionally reliable so that can shield them in occasions of need to have. Of course, this categorization is instinctive and women themselves will also not know why. That is why when you ask a lady what they want in a man, they can’t give you this answer.
In a series of social studies, researchers threw parties for singles and observed that some males do pick up girls and ended up sending the girls home and begin dating them even though other folks do not. The aim is to comprehend why the girls chose certain types of men and what did these guys who have been selected have in common with every single other.
The results of the studies confirmed that there was a commonality amongst the single men who went property with the girls. The commonality in these profitable guys is that they do not seem needy or desperate to please the girls at the parties. In contrast to the other guys who went house alone from the parties, these men did not make themselves too obtainable and did not show that a lot interest in the girls.
The guys who were productive in picking up the girls showed extremely attractive male attributes simply because they are really confident in themselves and need not to desperately please the girls. Ladies admire and are attracted to men who are confident in themselves. Self self-confidence is portrayed by the way you conduct yourself such as the way you stroll and the way you interact with men and women.
The sad reality is that most guys never comprehend how critical it is to seem confident to be successful with girls. Several men turn out to be weak and shy in front of lovely girls and as a result project the incorrect image to be profitable and desirable to girls.
So in most circumstances, women will be naturally dismissive of such guys. This is simply because women instinctively perceived wussies as males who are unable to stand up for her or to protect her adequately when require to. Females on the subconscious level are hunting for mates to take care of her and her offspring.
So if you want to successfully attract and choose up girls, you have to develop up your self self-confidence and not to appear too wanting to please them. If you can project that image to girls, you will almost certainly have ladies swarming all over you. That then is a content issue, isn’t it?
“Amastra” mined Nha Trang Vietnam
picture by Barney Boylan, with permission.
Vietnam, Nha Trang bay, POL station.
Picture shows Barney Boylan on the left, with hands in pockets.
The Amastra’s crew is returning to the vessel in a landing craft.
The crew volunteered to go back on board to tie up the Dutch Shell tanker "Kara" when she would come alongside.
Here follows the story by Barney Boylan as published on Helderline, with permission.
On the 11th April 1967 I discovered myself sailing along the coast of Vietnam bound for the port of Nha Trang. I was a crew member on board the Shell tanker MV Amastra.
We had been carrying a cargo of Jp4 fuel for the American air force.
We had loaded this cargo in Singapore, while there the Bum Baot girls had come on board, along with an Indian Sikh, he was telling fortunes.
He told me I would be going residence quickly, I had already been on board the Amastra for seven months. On this morning I went on deck at seven o’clock to watch the early morning mist clear from the mountains, a first glimpse of this country so a lot in the news for so many years of war. Mid day came and we lastly reached our location in the massive bay at Nha Trang. We had been to anchor and connect up to a submarine pipeline, exactly where we could remain as a floating storage depot for the American air force. The concept being the fuel would be safer in a ship in the bay than in the storage tanks ashore where the Viet Cong could attack and destroy it.
There would be no shore leave as we had been in a war zone. That evening we had a film show on board, 1 of the three films we were permitted per month, so factors had been not so undesirable, a few cans of beer and a practically new film, what a lot more could we want.
The film ended about ten thirty pm, I returned to my cabin to play with the dials of my brand new Phillips World get radio, just purchased in Singapore. It had been a extended day and quickly I was in my bunk with lights out, but not for long.
I was rudely awakened by a dull thud and vibration in my cabin, rapidly followed by the ships alarm bells becoming sounded. I was out of my bunk as fast as a cat chased up a tree by a bull dog, on with shoes and trousers, and a single other really important factor my Lifejacket, for I could not swim an inch. I was met in the alleyway by my ship mate John Young from Longford and the third engineer shouting, get out swift she’s going down. We dashed along the alleyway and up the companionway to the deck where we identified the crew messman cowering down behind the ships steel bulwark. I asked him what had occurred, he replied we may well have been fired on from ashore, he didn’t know for sure. Inside an few a lot more moments the lights went out and the ships horn sounded the abandon ship signal. My lifeboat station was amidships on the port side, which meant I now had to make my way along the catwalk above the tanks of jet fuel oil to attain my boat station, where my job was to tie the painter from the lifeboat to a bollard on the fore deck. I have often heard of the expression of a person’s knees knocking together, now I was experiencing it for myself first hand as I produced my way along the deck following securing the painter. My lifeboat had now been swung out over the ships side by the other crew members, when along came the marines to rescue us. Tiny patrol boats and amphicars have been sent from shore when the lights went out, and our distress call was picked up. By now we could see and feel the ship sinking by the stern. The Viet Cong had sent out an beneath water swimmer to plant a limpet which blew a large hole in the engine space. As no one knew how a lot of had been planted , we have been told to stop lowering our personal lifeboats and get in the rescue boats as rapid as feasible, since if there was yet another explosion we were all dead men. The marines in the amphicars brought us to a beach to await a lift to Camp McArthur, it was the begin of a new day for all the crew now safely ashore in war torn Vietnam.
From US Navy archives the following story was extracted:
At 0010h, on April 12, 1967, the privately chartered 9,000 ton British flagged Shell Oil tanker M/V AMASTRA had been holed by an external explosive device even though moored in the POL transfer anchorage in Nha Trang Harbor, Vietnam.
The AMASTRA was preparing to off load aviation fuel for military aircraft when the explosion ripped open a 4 by six foot jagged hole at the waterline close to the fire wall in between the engine room and the boiler room.
The engine area, fire space and the right after pump room flooded in twenty minutes causing the AMASTRA’s stern to settle to the harbor bottom leaving the rear decks awash.
One more Shell Oil tanker, the Dutch flagged M/V KARA from ‘s-Gravenhage, Netherlands arrived and moored port side to the AMASTRA. The KARA supplied auxiliary power and steam so AMASTRA could transfer 640,000 gallons of fuel to the KARA. The AMASTRA’s broken region was thirty feet beneath the water line and needed a twelve by twelve-foot patch.
In the early morning hours of April 13, USS “Current” ARS-22 arrived at Nha Trang. Shortly soon after arriving, the perform boat was placed in the water and a salvage group departed for the tanker to survey the harm and program a course of action. Commander Service Group Three salvage officer Commander J. B. Orem was designated Officer in Charge of the AMASTRA salvage operation. USS “Greenlet” ASR-ten as well as Harbor Clearance Unit One’s HCT-3 employees members were also sent from Vung Tau to assist during the re-floating operation.
Floodlights were secured on USS “Current” ARS-22’s rails and directed into the waters about the ship at sunset. Armed sentries had been posted during darkness to defend against any attempt to attach an explosives charge to USS “Current” ARS-22’s hull. Early every morning, USS “Current” ARS-22 weighed anchor and moored starboard side to AMASTRA. At the finish of each day, USS “Current” ARS-22 departed AMASTRA and re-anchored in the center of Nha Trang Harbor for security.
Prior to transferring fuel oil to the KARA, USS “Current” ARS-22 diver LTJG Vince Weis along with a HCU-1 diver wearing shallow water diving gear went into the AMASTRA’s engine area, filled with dangerous gas fumes, to close a set of valves that permitted AMASTRA’s oil cargo to be transferred to the KARA. USS “Current” ARS-22’s crew rigged salvage pumps and compressors then transferred them to the decks of AMASTRA. After the ship’s divers maneuvered a fabricated patch into spot to cease the inflow of sea water into the engine area, the salvage pumps were began and the AMASTRA started to show freeboard. The spaces on the AMASTRA that had been flooded have been cleared with the help of thirty to forty Vietnamese and Filipino stevedores.
With the loss of power for refrigeration, combined with the hot climate of Vietnam, an estimated six thousand pounds of spoiled meat and vegetables have been removed from AMASTRA to a barge then dumped at sea. While ashore hiring the stevedores, USS “Current” ARS-22’s Operations Officer LTJG Mark Lusink in a conversation with nearby villagers was informed that the AMASTRA was mined by the South Vietnamese to avoid it from sailing to Haiphong, North Vietnam. Shell Oil tankers did not travel to North Vietnam.
The initial investigation indicated that a Limpet mine of roughly 80 to 90 pounds of explosives was used. In view of the close proximity of 150 yards to the beach hamlet of Truong Tay, a identified haven for regional pilferers, black marketers and other questionable individuals, the investigation determined that the explosive charge was most most likely delivered from the hamlet location by a swimmer sapper. The Vietnam war was certainly a strange and crazy war. The majority of the 43 man crew was removed by local Army landing craft about half an hour right after the explosion. They spent the evening at the American Army Officers’ quarters at Camp John McDermott in Nha Trang.
On April 22, 1967, USS “Current” ARS-22’s salvage crew effectively raised and dewatered the AMASTRA. The fabricated patch was removed and a a lot more permanent steel patch was constructed. SFM2 "Ace" Acfalle, one of USS “Current” ARS-22’s ship fitters, spent the greater element of two days, with no any rest, welding the metal patch to the AMASTRA to make it seaworthy.
The AMASTRA was towed by industrial tug to Singapore for dry-docking and repairs.